CHRISTMAS traditions. We all love them and have them – but a new survey says rituals on December 25 are less about a trip to church or the Queen’s speech and more about the family bickering and boozing. Maria Court investigates

WHAT to watch on television and relatives over-indulging in Christmas spirit are the most likely causes of arguments over the festive season.

Television-related issues soared into first place with 62 per cent of more than 2,000 respondents citing them as the most likely cause of an argument at Christmas, according to a survey carried out by satellite television service Freesat.

Almost a quarter of people said deciding what programmes to watch was the main cause of a clash at Christmas, while 19 per cent argued over who controls the television remote.

There was further debate (13 per cent) over which programmes to record, and eight per cent argued about whether to watch the Queen’s speech.

Inebriated family members provoked arguments among 21 per cent of respondents.

That’s not forgetting the squabbles in 16 per cent of households over who does the washing up.

Other common irritations included Christmas television specials, which 30 per cent of us are disappointed with, and excessive packaging on toys.

Sixteen per cent of those surveyed said they resented having to go to the supermarket to stock up on food.

For all the arguments and disappointments, however, more than half of us would rather be at home for Christmas than anywhere else.

The figures correspond with earlier surveys which revealed that a huge 22 per cent of people expect a family argument over the festive period, and that the average family will have their first argument early on Christmas Day – at 9.58am to be precise.

Family flare-ups are bound to happen, particularly as there are lots of people together and tensions can be running high.

Relate in Bournemouth know only too well how the raised excitement levels, high expectations and amount going on, means not everything may run to plan.

Spokeswoman Roni Jones said: “We have even produced a guide to avoiding bust-ups over the festive season and are asking people to put a ‘harmonious Christ- mas’ on top of their wish list.”

Tips include turning the television off, instead digging out board games or something you can do as a family. Don’t feel you have to do everything yourself; and if there is any tension in your family steer clear of alcohol – it will only aggravate the situation.

“Remember to have fun!” Roni added. “Christmas can be a very hectic time, especially if you have children, so make sure you plan in some time for yourself and give yourself some treats.

“If things are getting a bit heated, head out for a long walk on a frosty afternoon – fresh air and exercise are a great antidote for tension “The period after Christmas is the busiest time for Relate so we know and understand the pressures that people are facing.

“If the festive season is getting too much for you, then make sure you talk to someone, your partner, a friend or your family – or come and see one of our counsellors, by calling 01202 311231 or visit our website relate-bournemouth.org.uk”