Soon-to-be-weds will call themselves Mrs and Mrs Bankes after the Studland pub where they had their first date

Sarah and Claire

ARMS IN ARM: The Bankes Arms

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THE country pub where they had their first date has provided the inspiration for a soon-to-be-wed Poole couple choosing a new married name.

Sarah Harrison, 29, and Claire Arnold, 33, who are getting married on Saturday toyed with the idea of combining their names at first – but after rejecting ‘Harrinold’ and ‘Arson’, they finally settled on Bankes, after The Bankes Arms in Studland where they had their first date.

Sarah, a production editor at a publishers, said after going round in circles it was her mum who came up with the idea to make up a completely new name.

“We thought of words that meant something to us, and the name of the place where we had our first date seemed like a nice one,” she added.

“Friends have asked why we haven't chosen something more exotic, but we wanted something meaningful and the Bankes Arms has a special place in our hearts.”

The couple, who met on a night out with friends, had their first proper date at The Bankes Arms in Studland in March 2011, and found they had a lot in common straight away – even ordering the same meal.

But they couldn’t have guessed that three years later, following a change in the law, they would be marrying each other.

Being a same sex couple they are celebrating not being bound by the same traditions as most marriages, added Sarah: “It’s nice to have this opportunity. I’m not a real fan of tradition, and I like the fact that we have the freedom to choose something a bit different.”

Not eschewing tradition altogether the brides will be married in traditional white wedding dresses before family and friends at Poole’s Harbour Heights Hotel on Saturday where they will become Mrs and Mrs Bankes.

Rebecca Summers, manager at The Bankes Arms, said: “What a delightful compliment. We wish them all the best for their married life and look forward to welcoming them back here soon.”

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11:09am Thu 19 Jun 14

suzigirl says...

Lucky it wasn't "The **** Inn" !
Lucky it wasn't "The **** Inn" ! suzigirl
  • Score: 2

11:10am Thu 19 Jun 14

suzigirl says...

or Fanny by Gaslight!
or Fanny by Gaslight! suzigirl
  • Score: 0

11:54am Thu 19 Jun 14

elite50 says...

Going to be "married in white dresses"?
Does that mean that they are both virgins?
That is what the white dress is supposed to signify.
They should have met at the Stag Hotel, or some other suitable place.
Nothing seems to mean much any more.
Going to be "married in white dresses"? Does that mean that they are both virgins? That is what the white dress is supposed to signify. They should have met at the Stag Hotel, or some other suitable place. Nothing seems to mean much any more. elite50
  • Score: -23

12:52pm Thu 19 Jun 14

twynham says...

I refuse to mention The Offa's Dyke Brewery!
Sorry.
Very best wishes to them both.
I refuse to mention The Offa's Dyke Brewery! Sorry. Very best wishes to them both. twynham
  • Score: 10

1:07pm Thu 19 Jun 14

boyerboy says...

Have to mention the silent women.........
Have to mention the silent women......... boyerboy
  • Score: 0

1:26pm Thu 19 Jun 14

Sir Beachy Head says...

Looks like mum and daughter.
Looks like mum and daughter. Sir Beachy Head
  • Score: -7

8:24pm Thu 19 Jun 14

carrrob says...

Mother and daughter but a good looking couple !
Mother and daughter but a good looking couple ! carrrob
  • Score: 5

11:53pm Thu 19 Jun 14

elite50 says...

I take it (just guessing) that Clare takes the mans role in this "marriage".
I hope they don't want kids.
I take it (just guessing) that Clare takes the mans role in this "marriage". I hope they don't want kids. elite50
  • Score: -8

4:02am Fri 20 Jun 14

guisselle says...

No need for a baby sitter and probably both have good careers. The world is
full of lonely hearts that started off with a white wedding and dreams of a
happy family. Hope they are happy to be Aunties and not mums!
No need for a baby sitter and probably both have good careers. The world is full of lonely hearts that started off with a white wedding and dreams of a happy family. Hope they are happy to be Aunties and not mums! guisselle
  • Score: 2

7:41am Fri 20 Jun 14

we-shall-see says...

Who so many negative comments about who will take the "mans" role and whether they want children?

I wish you lot would just accept something for what it is and be happy for the couple!

Besides, why would either of them need to be a "man" within the marriage? We women are just as good as the men when it comes to DIY or anything else traditionally a "mans" role.

Likewise childrearing. With so many single mums in society today, why assume this couple could not or should not have kids together? IVF is certainly a way for them to fill their arms with babies, as it is for any other childless couple.

Just be happy for them please! I bet their marriage will last a lot longer than many other young heterosexual couples - where statistically, many do not even make it last five years! So much for marriage only being between man and woman :o/

I have seen many changes to society in my lifetime and sometimes I think we "oldies" are a lot more tolerant of things than younger people are - certainly the comments on this story would indicate so :o/
Who so many negative comments about who will take the "mans" role and whether they want children? I wish you lot would just accept something for what it is and be happy for the couple! Besides, why would either of them need to be a "man" within the marriage? We women are just as good as the men when it comes to DIY or anything else traditionally a "mans" role. Likewise childrearing. With so many single mums in society today, why assume this couple could not or should not have kids together? IVF is certainly a way for them to fill their arms with babies, as it is for any other childless couple. Just be happy for them please! I bet their marriage will last a lot longer than many other young heterosexual couples - where statistically, many do not even make it last five years! So much for marriage only being between man and woman :o/ I have seen many changes to society in my lifetime and sometimes I think we "oldies" are a lot more tolerant of things than younger people are - certainly the comments on this story would indicate so :o/ we-shall-see
  • Score: 20

3:13pm Fri 20 Jun 14

Lucy28 says...

I hope they are happy with each other for a long time I just wonder why this is news? What name people take on when they get married surely isn't newsworthy is it?
I hope they are happy with each other for a long time I just wonder why this is news? What name people take on when they get married surely isn't newsworthy is it? Lucy28
  • Score: 3

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