COLUMNIST and trained counsellor Fiona Caine answers another set of reader dilemmas.

I CHEATED ON MY HUSBAND AND FOUND IT EXCITING

I have been married for 16 years and thought I had a stable, happy relationship. We have spent a lot of this time apart, as our jobs require us to do a lot of travelling, but we’ve always trusted each other and I have never thought of straying - which is why I am confused by the fact that I ended up in bed with a friend after a party last week.

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I don’t know why this happened, it wasn’t as if I’d drunk too much and my husband had only been away for a few days at the time, but now I feel so guilty. My husband really is a good man and I hate that I have done this to him, but I can’t help but feel excited by what happened and find I’m still attracted to this other man.

Is it possible that I love two men, and do you think this could work?

FIONA SAYS: THINK CAREFULLY

Yes, I think it’s possible to love two men, but no, I don’t think it could work. In fact, this sounds like a recipe for disaster! Do you really think your husband would be happy to share you with someone else?

You’ve been married for 16 years, and I suspect your marriage has become a little predictable - perhaps even dull. The idea of a dual life may sound exciting, but you are on course to destroy your marriage and I don’t think that’s what you really want.

Think about why you did this and see if you can find some way of putting the sparkle back into your marriage.

DAUGHTER’S WEALTHY BOYFRIEND MAKES ME FEEL BAD

I’ve worked hard to raise my family and even though money was tight, my three children were always fed and warm, loved and cared for. For the past year, my 19-year-old daughter has been going out with a young man whose family is very wealthy and she never stops talking about what they are able to do.

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It’s a succession of luxury cars, exotic holidays and a huge house, and it feels as though she’s trying to get at me for never having been able to provide these things for her.

I like the young man she’s seeing very much, but the longer this goes on, the harder it gets for me to stay positive about him. Why is she doing this?

FIONA SAYS: SHE MIGHT JUST BE ENJOYING LIFE

Your daughter probably has no idea how this is making you feel, and I expect she is dazzled by the luxury of things she has never had - but I am sure she doesn’t mean to hurt you.

As she matures, I am sure she will come to realise the importance and value of a secure childhood and a loving family.

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