THE grieving father of a teenager murdered in Bournemouth by her jealous boyfriend has created a podcast about death.

Mark Longley reveals his struggle to cope with the brutal death of 17-year-old daughter Emily and describes how people were “awkward and clumsy” around him after her murder.

Emily Longley, an aspiring model and Brockenhurst College student, was killed by self-professed playboy Elliot Turner at his parents’ home in Queenswood Avenue, Queens Park on May 7 2011.

He strangled her in bed and was jailed for a minimum term of 16 years when he appeared at Winchester Crown Court the following year.

British-born Emily had emigrated to New Zealand with her parents Mark and Caroline, and sister Hannah, when she was nine.

She returned to the UK to live with her grandparents in Southbourne and study a business diploma course.

It was then that she met Turner, whose parents Leigh and Anita Turner, were also jailed following Emily’s death.

They were each jailed for 27 months after being convicted of perverting the course of justice by destroying a confession note from Turner and removing a jacket from the scene.

Emily’s family travelled to the UK for the trial but then returned to New Zealand.

In his podcast, Mark describes how friends and acquaintances were too afraid to mention Emily’s death when he met them.

He said: “I have been guilty in the past of the same thing. But it struck me as odd - why are we so awkward around death? Why do we find talking about death so hard? Why are we clumsy around people who are grieving?

“We are all going to die, not all of us at a ripe old age, but it still remains a huge social taboo in many western societies.”

The podcast, called Death, is in three chapters titled Death, Grief and Hope.

Mark added: “Death is going to come to us all, so this is a podcast for everyone, whether you are experiencing grief or know someone who is. We talk about death and loss, but also love and hope.

“In the podcast I have spoken to people who have experienced grief, from losing a father to suicide to a grandmother 20 years ago whose loss is still keenly felt. I spoke to experts and colleagues and looked at both the process of grieving and helping those we know are mourning.

I also wanted to help people deal with grief - not only grieving people, but the people around them. How do you help someone who is in the depths of grief?

I remember one day, very shortly after Emily died, going out to buy something from a shop. As I walked through the streets I couldn’t understand why everyone was going about their daily business as if nothing had happened.

“Why weren’t they distraught like me? How could they be chatting in the street without a care in the world?

“I loved Emily and when she died, I almost died too. But I found a way through and I hope this podcast will help anyone else who is grieving find their way through it.

The podcast is available on iTunes and Spotify.