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Breastfeeding: How Do Some Mothers Successfully Meet WHO Guidelines?

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The WHO stipulates that all babies must be breastfed exclusively for six months, and that breastfeeding should continue for two years and beyond.

Many people gasp in horror at this, but I’m sure that the WHO has done their research (okay, I know they have) and has reasons for believing that babies, in ALL nations, would thrive best if they were breastfed exclusively for six months (exclusive breastfeeding means ONLY BREASTMILK) and, with additional foods, breastfed until at least two years of age.

In fact, many, many women do follow WHO guidelines. There are many babies who have been exclusively breastfed for six months, and we see more and more nursing toddlers these days. Many more women (me, for one) almost manage, nursing exclusively for four-ish months and continuing breastfeeding for well over a year.

Why are some breastfeeding teams successful? What is it that works for us? It’s certainly not that it comes easily to us at first: I cried many tears over my bawling baby and sore boobs before we got it all figured out!

Is it a certain ‘Type’ of woman who nurses her baby for two years? I don’t think so: in my years as a breastfeeding counsellor I’ve met homeschoolers, corporate lawyers, managers, beauty queens, actresses, designers, air hostesses, writers, mathematicians, stay-at-home-baking-cookies moms… all types, who breastfed for two years and beyond because they wanted to. For some, it meant simply breastfeeding on demand, their child helping themselves. For others it involved expressing milk at lunchtime and keeping it in a tiny fridge in their secretary’s office.

So, WHY are some breastfeeding teams so successful? This is my question to YOU, and you, and you. I know you’re out there. Have you breastfed exclusively for more than three months? Did you continue for over a year? Let us help other Mamas and their babies by sharing our tips. If you have breastfed a baby for nearly the WHO-recommended length of time, can you tell me how or why in 'Comments' below?

Okay, I’ll start: I think that maybe, co-sleeping was helpful in making breastfeeding, especially at night, easy. I also had plenty of support from my Mum, who cheered me on.

There! Now it’s your turn! I will be publishing this article elsewhere as well, and when everyone has had their say I will put it all together in another post. Now spill the beans, breast feeders!


Comments(9)

yasinac says...
8:55pm Thu 25 Feb 10

I breastfed three of my four children exclusively for three/four months. The third being the hardest as he had reflux and threw up most of what he swallowed and I ended up permanently attached! My fourth child would not feed however hard I tried so I had to resort to bottle feeding. I desperately missed breast feeding my last child and would recommend to all to try as the closeness and satisfaction it brings stays with you forever.

SylkoZakur says...
10:23pm Thu 25 Feb 10

I breastfed all of my children at least 7 months. Baby 1 nursed 2 years (1 year exclusive), Baby 2 nursed 7 months (all exclusive), Baby 3 nursed 1 year (exclusive). Baby 4 is nursing at 9 months, exclusively. I also worked full time with all babies, and husband is an at home parent. I pumped at work for all babies except for #4, who nurses because I live close to work.

What helped me reach those marks is a supportive spouse, co-sleeping, and total determination to make breastfeeding work.

With first 3, I had vaginal deliveries with no drugs. With #4 I had an epidural and a c-section. Didn't get to nurse within minutes as I did with other three. Nursing him was very difficult, and I took it one day at a time. If I can just get through one more day, I told myself, I can quit then. Then did the same vow every day. It took a month to get going normally, but he's a big boy now, and it's all breastmilk!

I think the fact that I'm socially awkward enough to not notice if people don't like me to nurse in public helps!

rainbowkisses says...
10:36pm Thu 25 Feb 10

SylkoZakur wrote:
I breastfed all of my children at least 7 months. Baby 1 nursed 2 years (1 year exclusive), Baby 2 nursed 7 months (all exclusive), Baby 3 nursed 1 year (exclusive). Baby 4 is nursing at 9 months, exclusively. I also worked full time with all babies, and husband is an at home parent. I pumped at work for all babies except for #4, who nurses because I live close to work. What helped me reach those marks is a supportive spouse, co-sleeping, and total determination to make breastfeeding work. With first 3, I had vaginal deliveries with no drugs. With #4 I had an epidural and a c-section. Didn't get to nurse within minutes as I did with other three. Nursing him was very difficult, and I took it one day at a time. If I can just get through one more day, I told myself, I can quit then. Then did the same vow every day. It took a month to get going normally, but he's a big boy now, and it's all breastmilk! I think the fact that I'm socially awkward enough to not notice if people don't like me to nurse in public helps!
Love your last paragraph. Wish more women were like that. If people don't like to see a mother breastfeeding, then look away. Only this country can turn one of the most natural things in the world, into something that is "dirty" and should be hidden away from sight. Hopefully as the old fashioned brigade die off, the more modern generation will accept it.

present says...
11:50pm Thu 25 Feb 10

I breastfed my daughter exclusively for the first 6 months and then until she was 17 months old; and my son is just over 12 months and I am still breastfeeding him. With my daughter I returned to work when she was 5 months old so I expressed milk at work and went to feed her at lunchtime as her nursery was next to where I worked. I gave up work this time around and so I am demand feeding, but I also became a milk donor for premature babies for a few months which I found to be a very rewarding experience!
Your comment above about older generations finding breastfeeding in public to be embarrassing isn't my experience - of the 2 incidents I have had of negative attitudes, they have both been men in their 20's or 30's who have been so put off by me that they left the cafe!

I love breastfeeding and I also don't care whether other people feel uncomfortable with me doing it, or not - it's their hang-up, not mine!

stitch626 says...
8:25am Fri 26 Feb 10

I breastfed my daughter for a year, but by this time she wasn't interested anymore and the advise was very different 16 years ago as she was weaned at 12 weeks. My 3 boys were different though. I breastfed exclusively for 16 weeks and the older two up until they were around 30 months. My youngest is 22 months and still breastfeeding. The only issue I have with it, is that others find it odd to see a nursing toddler. I am currently trying to cut it down to just a morning and evening feed, but he can be quite demanding at times and is teething, so its more a comfort / pain relief thing for him. I work part time, so am lucky that I don't need to express anymore, but I did when he was younger so my husband could bond with him too.

borednow says...
6:10pm Fri 26 Feb 10

I breastfed my eldest daughter until she was 5 months old, but I had to return to work and found that expressing was very difficult, so I started giving her formula. For my second I was determined not to give formula - not because I am against it per se, more because I'm lazy and couldn't be bothered with the faff of sterilising and making up the formula!

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My second daughter was exclusively breastfed for 6 months, and she is now on solids plus breast milk. I go back to work in a couple of weeks time, but only for a couple of hours a day, so will be able to continue breastfeeding. I hope to do it for as long as she wants me to.

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As for feeding in public, I managed to feed my daughter in the bar after my partner played football a couple of weeks ago and not one of the 22 burly footballers made any comment whatsoever! Although even if they had I wouldn't have stopped!

e-claire says...
7:26pm Fri 26 Feb 10

I breastfed my first son for 12 months and my second son until he was 2 years 5 months. With my first son it was really hard to establish breastfeeding and he was initially on bottle top-ups for the first few weeks, but I was determined and eventually he manged to be purely breastfed. My second son took to it like a duck to water and would never take a bottle of expressed milk. With my first son I was made to feel like a bit of an freak breastfeeding for so long and probably gave up at 12 months due to the comments that I received from others (including my own Mum and sister and my friends who were also mums!). For my second son I decided to completely ignore any comments and eventually people just stopped asking about it and I didn't mention it either. I'm really proud that I breastfed my second son for so long. I think there is still a massive stigma in this country over breastfeeding past 6 months. It would help if our Government and Health Service supported WHO's advice, currently they just seem to recommend 6 months. Also a lot of mums seem to give up early because it is "too hard". They should be supported and encouraged to carry on, if you can get through the first few weeks I found it got a lot easier.

Nan Sheppard says...
5:06pm Sat 27 Feb 10

Wow, everyone, thank you so much for your wonderful and informative comments! I agree that there is a stigma attached to breastfeeding in public, and to breastfeeding a toddler. I wonder if this could be changed, and how? If only Angelina would breastfeed in public... Sigh!

Keep the information coming, I'd love to hear more breastfeeding success stories!

mumma2lpb says...
11:00am Sat 20 Mar 10

I have been bf for nearly 9 years now continuously, my eldest of 3 will be 9 in a couple of weeks. I have tandem fed my next 2 children.....My first born fed until he was 5 and a few months, my 2nd was bf until 5 and my 3rd is still feeding and will be turning 3 in a couple of weeks!
My first born was an emergency ceaser and when I finally had him in my arms he was ravenous! It took a while to learn how to latch on and when he did he wasn't going to let go for long...he was a constant feeder ie that is where he was happiest, at the breast. My dd was born when he was nearly 3 and they fed happily together often holding hands as they fed! As she grew, she wanted more and wasn't as happy to share, and I wasn't as comfortable to feed them at the same time. He gradually just outgrew the feeds, they became less and less....
Fast forward 3 years and I was only feeding my daughter when no 3 came along. The tandem feeding with 2 girls wasn't as peaceful and I felt the need to feed them apart most of the time. By then
I was a bit more touched out and overwhelmed by their needs for their mumma. My 2nd born told me she would stop feeding at 5 and I held her to it (unlike my first born who we stopped more gradually even when he changed his mind about when!).
My older 2 still talk about their feeding days and my daughter on the very odd occasion has a little go. They reminisce happily about 'num nums' and my nearly 3 yr old still loves it and I can see she will probably feed to a similar age unless I get so touched out by then that I move her along faster than she is ready....but I doubt it!
What has made it work for us? Hmmm not taking any notice in public if people have a problem with me tandem feeding or feeding an older child...thinking that I am showing others that this is normal and ok....I feel comfortable doing this if this is what my child needs at this moment.
Letting my older child know if feeding them is not working for me right now ( I am hungry/tired//need food or rest or space to be able to make num nums).
Reminding myself that this time of their needing me in such a physical way will pass so quickly in the big picture that no matter how hard it feels I will one day crave that snuggling, warm, cuddling from my little ones and have so much to look back onto to remember it!
moments to treasure in my old age...

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