Roadshow in Poole brings attention to honour based violence and forced marriage

ISSUE: Jasvinder Sanghera, DS Neil Wright, left, and DCI Jez Noyce from Dorset Police

ISSUE: Jasvinder Sanghera, DS Neil Wright, left, and DCI Jez Noyce from Dorset Police

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SHOCKING stories of rape, threats of violence, self-harm and suicide were brought into the open in Poole at a roadshow raising awareness of honour based violence and forced marriage.

Around 550 people attended the event at Lighthouse, hosted by Safer Poole Partnership and Dorset Police, at which the importance of a new forced marriage law on June 16 was highlighted.

DCI Jez Noyce, the head of serious crimes investigation for Dorset Police, said the 22 incidents reported in Bournemouth and Poole last year came from isolated ethnic communities, which could increase the risk.

“It is widely recognised that it’s under reported,” he said. “Victims are going under the radar. That’s an issue.”

Traditionally those forced into marriage were aged 14-18 but they could be up to 30 or beyond. And it affected both sexes. He said the new law included an offence of breaching a forced marriage protection order.

Borough of Poole strategic director Jan Thurgood told the biggest of 21 events across the UK: “This has never been something we have had a great deal of experience of. We really need to learn from others.”

Charity Karma Nirvana founder and chief executive Jasvinder Sanghera said her Honour Network Helpline was receiving 720 calls a month – and missing a further 221.

She said they were coming from people born in Britain who were being taken back to their parents’ homeland and forced into marriage, as happened to her sisters, one of whom later set herself on fire and died.

She rebelled against a forced marriage, ran away from home and was disowned by her family at age 16.

“I am ashamed to say that most perpetrators of forced marriage are women, not men – mothers, aunties, sisters.”

Jasvinder said: “We want to increase reporting, reduce isolation and save lives.”

The Karma Nirvana helpline is 0800 5999 247.

Victim's harrowing tale

SURVIVOR “Ayesha” was 18 when she was forced to marry a Punjabi man that she did not know. Having run away from home at 16, she was pursued by her family and threatened with violence.

She told a harrowing tale of being raped on her wedding night, of near suicide, running away and being found by members of her family and nearly run off the road in a car.

Ayesha, now 37, received help from Karma Nirvana and said she was resolved to raise awareness.

“Forced marriage and honour based violence is happening in the UK, not in the Middle East and Pakistan. If I can help one person out there, it will be worth it,” she said.

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6:00am Mon 9 Jun 14

Understated says...

put into perspective some things. people will argue blind hatred toward same sex marriage despite both parties consenting, simply down to gender issues.

then this sort of thing happens under the radar and people dont bat an eyelid. this all needs to change. people killing themselves over forced marriage. being made to marry strangers for whatever reasons they didnt decide for themselves, that is what is against the sanctity of marriage.
put into perspective some things. people will argue blind hatred toward same sex marriage despite both parties consenting, simply down to gender issues. then this sort of thing happens under the radar and people dont bat an eyelid. this all needs to change. people killing themselves over forced marriage. being made to marry strangers for whatever reasons they didnt decide for themselves, that is what is against the sanctity of marriage. Understated
  • Score: 15

6:06am Mon 9 Jun 14

Huey says...

The last paragraph is load of tripe!
I bet forced marriage and honour based violence IS happening in the Middle East and Pakistan, on a daily basis.
It is those communities and cultures that bring it over here!
They love all that stuff over there. It is what they are into, along with all their religious mumbo jumbo. All a load of nonsense.
The last paragraph is load of tripe! I bet forced marriage and honour based violence IS happening in the Middle East and Pakistan, on a daily basis. It is those communities and cultures that bring it over here! They love all that stuff over there. It is what they are into, along with all their religious mumbo jumbo. All a load of nonsense. Huey
  • Score: -35

8:35am Mon 9 Jun 14

Martin Houlden UKIP Bournemouth says...

Can we not start referring to such things as "Dishonour crimes" instead - that would seem to me to be a far more accurate description.
Can we not start referring to such things as "Dishonour crimes" instead - that would seem to me to be a far more accurate description. Martin Houlden UKIP Bournemouth
  • Score: 11

3:06pm Mon 9 Jun 14

skydriver says...

Huey wrote:
The last paragraph is load of tripe!
I bet forced marriage and honour based violence IS happening in the Middle East and Pakistan, on a daily basis.
It is those communities and cultures that bring it over here!
They love all that stuff over there. It is what they are into, along with all their religious mumbo jumbo. All a load of nonsense.
The only nonsense here is you, you are totally wrong, how do you know what goes on I doubt very much if you have every travelled outside the Poole/ Bournemouth area, so that makes you ill informed .
Think before you write trash on the comments page.
[quote][p][bold]Huey[/bold] wrote: The last paragraph is load of tripe! I bet forced marriage and honour based violence IS happening in the Middle East and Pakistan, on a daily basis. It is those communities and cultures that bring it over here! They love all that stuff over there. It is what they are into, along with all their religious mumbo jumbo. All a load of nonsense.[/p][/quote]The only nonsense here is you, you are totally wrong, how do you know what goes on I doubt very much if you have every travelled outside the Poole/ Bournemouth area, so that makes you ill informed . Think before you write trash on the comments page. skydriver
  • Score: 13

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