Parkstone Cemetery flowers laid on 5,000 graves in act of remembrance

GIVING: Rachael Edis together with volunteers has covered graves in Parkstone cemetery with flowers in an Easter Flowerthon

GIVING: Rachael Edis together with volunteers has covered graves in Parkstone cemetery with flowers in an Easter Flowerthon

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VOLUNTEERS braved the rain to lay flowers on thousands of graves in Parkstone Cemetery yesterday.

More than 40 people took part, taking three hours to place a single flower on the grave of each of the 5,000 or so locals who have passed away and are buried there, some of whose names are no longer visible.

The Easter Flowerthon was organised by 27-year-old Rachael Edis, of Canford Heath, who came up with the idea after noticing how many graves were bare while visiting her mother’s final resting place.

Rachael’s mother, Linda Adamczyk, lost her battle with cancer in 2012, aged 64.

“It was pouring down with rain, which I thought would put people off, but we still had an amazing response on the day and on Facebook,” she said.

“It looks really lovely down there now, nice and colourful.

“I thought while I was visiting mum that while some of the graves are always colourful, many are bare. On some of them you can’t even read who they are for any more. We wanted to do something nice for others, even if we don’t know who they are they were important to someone.”

She and her friend Natalie Murphy organised and delivered the flowers, provided by Edward and Co, Kabloom, Co-operative Funeral Care and “the flower man at Wimborne market”, and the volunteers got stuck in.

Some who weren’t able to make it during the afternoon arrived earlier in the day with their own flowers after reading about the event online.

“We have been really pleased at the response we have had,” added Rachael.

“It would be nice to do it again in future. There are lots of cemeteries around here so we might go somewhere else and try to get more people involved.”

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8:27am Mon 21 Apr 14

Hickery says...

A lovely gesture. However, and I'm not usually one for negativity, I wonder whether efforts may have been better spent giving flowers to lonely, living persons instead? Imagine how much more joy might have been spread by 40 volunteers each spending three hours with an elderly lonely person, rather than three hours in a cemetery.
A lovely gesture. However, and I'm not usually one for negativity, I wonder whether efforts may have been better spent giving flowers to lonely, living persons instead? Imagine how much more joy might have been spread by 40 volunteers each spending three hours with an elderly lonely person, rather than three hours in a cemetery. Hickery
  • Score: 11

9:35am Mon 21 Apr 14

Morrigan says...

Hickery wrote:
A lovely gesture. However, and I'm not usually one for negativity, I wonder whether efforts may have been better spent giving flowers to lonely, living persons instead? Imagine how much more joy might have been spread by 40 volunteers each spending three hours with an elderly lonely person, rather than three hours in a cemetery.
I see your point, but often elderly people would be concerned to have someone knock their door and give them a flower/gift.

Sometimes it is just nice to do something for those who have passed, just as much as for the living and I bet it looks lovely down there today.

Well done to all involved :o)
[quote][p][bold]Hickery[/bold] wrote: A lovely gesture. However, and I'm not usually one for negativity, I wonder whether efforts may have been better spent giving flowers to lonely, living persons instead? Imagine how much more joy might have been spread by 40 volunteers each spending three hours with an elderly lonely person, rather than three hours in a cemetery.[/p][/quote]I see your point, but often elderly people would be concerned to have someone knock their door and give them a flower/gift. Sometimes it is just nice to do something for those who have passed, just as much as for the living and I bet it looks lovely down there today. Well done to all involved :o) Morrigan
  • Score: 13

10:17am Mon 21 Apr 14

susie a says...

Not one for negativity !! How about appreciate the kind gesture and thoughtfulness of the person who originated this idea as this was obviously something personal to her. I actually know some of the people who were involved in the planning of this and think they should be commended for what was a supreme effort and its nice for once to read about an act done out of sheer human kindness.
Not one for negativity !! How about appreciate the kind gesture and thoughtfulness of the person who originated this idea as this was obviously something personal to her. I actually know some of the people who were involved in the planning of this and think they should be commended for what was a supreme effort and its nice for once to read about an act done out of sheer human kindness. susie a
  • Score: 12

11:24am Mon 21 Apr 14

Rybags says...

Hickery wrote:
A lovely gesture. However, and I'm not usually one for negativity, I wonder whether efforts may have been better spent giving flowers to lonely, living persons instead? Imagine how much more joy might have been spread by 40 volunteers each spending three hours with an elderly lonely person, rather than three hours in a cemetery.
It never ceases to amaze me, the level of cynicism people doing a simple act of kindness have to endure.
Several of the people involved with the event are, or have been in the care/nursing profession for many years and therefore care for the elderly, the poorly and even the dying on a daily basis. Many others there have also been involved in dozens of charitable events over the years, whether it be raising money or awareness for various causes.

The day itself was very much a success despite the weather. Many people turning out in pouring rain. Some friends, some complete strangers all working together doing something positive. .

I hate having to write a post like this, but I felt compelled to respond to several of the unnecessary comments aimed at this and the previous article (Tuesday 15th April asking for volunteers).
Wouldn't it be wonderful if more people got up off their backside and collaborated to do small simple acts of kindness whatever it may be instead of sitting behind a keyboard being sceptical of the people who actually do

I challenge you to instead of wasting your time being so negative to go out and do something positive...It might just cheer you up!
[quote][p][bold]Hickery[/bold] wrote: A lovely gesture. However, and I'm not usually one for negativity, I wonder whether efforts may have been better spent giving flowers to lonely, living persons instead? Imagine how much more joy might have been spread by 40 volunteers each spending three hours with an elderly lonely person, rather than three hours in a cemetery.[/p][/quote]It never ceases to amaze me, the level of cynicism people doing a simple act of kindness have to endure. Several of the people involved with the event are, or have been in the care/nursing profession for many years and therefore care for the elderly, the poorly and even the dying on a daily basis. Many others there have also been involved in dozens of charitable events over the years, whether it be raising money or awareness for various causes. The day itself was very much a success despite the weather. Many people turning out in pouring rain. Some friends, some complete strangers all working together doing something positive. . I hate having to write a post like this, but I felt compelled to respond to several of the unnecessary comments aimed at this and the previous article (Tuesday 15th April asking for volunteers). Wouldn't it be wonderful if more people got up off their backside and collaborated to do small simple acts of kindness whatever it may be instead of sitting behind a keyboard being sceptical of the people who actually do I challenge you to instead of wasting your time being so negative to go out and do something positive...It might just cheer you up! Rybags
  • Score: 15

11:40am Mon 21 Apr 14

Ms daisy says...

What a lovely thing to do,
What a lovely thing to do, Ms daisy
  • Score: 6

12:42pm Mon 21 Apr 14

Hickery says...

I thought that my opinion might go down like a lead balloon with some people. As I said first in my comment, it was certainly a nice gesture. And I'm sure that the people involved enjoyed themselves and felt better for their efforts afterwards, in spite of the awful weather. Acts of kindness are to be commended whatever their nature and placing flowers on the graves of strangers certainly wins hands down against doing nothing for others with your spare time.
I thought that my opinion might go down like a lead balloon with some people. As I said first in my comment, it was certainly a nice gesture. And I'm sure that the people involved enjoyed themselves and felt better for their efforts afterwards, in spite of the awful weather. Acts of kindness are to be commended whatever their nature and placing flowers on the graves of strangers certainly wins hands down against doing nothing for others with your spare time. Hickery
  • Score: 3

1:13pm Mon 21 Apr 14

chrisii1991 says...

My dad,and gran and auntie are buried here. will have to check their graves. if they have had flowers put on their graves that is such a lovely thought
My dad,and gran and auntie are buried here. will have to check their graves. if they have had flowers put on their graves that is such a lovely thought chrisii1991
  • Score: 3

10:35pm Mon 21 Apr 14

arti273 says...

Hickery wrote:
I thought that my opinion might go down like a lead balloon with some people. As I said first in my comment, it was certainly a nice gesture. And I'm sure that the people involved enjoyed themselves and felt better for their efforts afterwards, in spite of the awful weather. Acts of kindness are to be commended whatever their nature and placing flowers on the graves of strangers certainly wins hands down against doing nothing for others with your spare time.
For what it's worth, I didn't see your first comment as cynical. It raised an interesting point and worthy of debate. A shame that it was misinterpreted by others. That aside, this was a wonderful gesture and well done to all those involved.
[quote][p][bold]Hickery[/bold] wrote: I thought that my opinion might go down like a lead balloon with some people. As I said first in my comment, it was certainly a nice gesture. And I'm sure that the people involved enjoyed themselves and felt better for their efforts afterwards, in spite of the awful weather. Acts of kindness are to be commended whatever their nature and placing flowers on the graves of strangers certainly wins hands down against doing nothing for others with your spare time.[/p][/quote]For what it's worth, I didn't see your first comment as cynical. It raised an interesting point and worthy of debate. A shame that it was misinterpreted by others. That aside, this was a wonderful gesture and well done to all those involved. arti273
  • Score: -1

11:39am Tue 22 Apr 14

drdave says...

A lovely gesture indeed. Maybe some of the folks that participated, WILL go by a care facility and spend a few minutes with an elderly person, but I know that my Aunty Doris who is buried there would have appreciated it. She had a lovely garden, and know that her only daughter (no sons) might not be able to get over there very often to put flowers on her grave. Thank you from Florida, USA
A lovely gesture indeed. Maybe some of the folks that participated, WILL go by a care facility and spend a few minutes with an elderly person, but I know that my Aunty Doris who is buried there would have appreciated it. She had a lovely garden, and know that her only daughter (no sons) might not be able to get over there very often to put flowers on her grave. Thank you from Florida, USA drdave
  • Score: 3

4:10pm Tue 22 Apr 14

myownopinions says...

I know that this is not going to please everyone - but ...... this is indeed a lovely gesture, for SOME people. It is a very individual thing and as my parents are buried in the Parkstone Cemetery I was extremely upset. To me their grave is a very personal thing, for our family to tend and care for, to place flowers when we want to, and its not for anyone else to decide that they should have flowers at Easter or any other time of the year. I can appreciate that many graves are untended, and if these good people wanted to place flowers on those graves, then so be it. My parents grave is very obviously cared for, with a posy of everlasting flowers and the fresh rose was pushed into the container with these, as part of our own tribute.

I have spoken to Poole Council about this and apparently the organisers were advised not to do this, as it may offend families of the deceased. The council is also concerned that they will now have to remove the 5000 or so dead flowers from each grave or is this same group of kind people going to return in a week or so and remove their floral tributes ?? If not it will have to be funded from the Council budget.
I know that this is not going to please everyone - but ...... this is indeed a lovely gesture, for SOME people. It is a very individual thing and as my parents are buried in the Parkstone Cemetery I was extremely upset. To me their grave is a very personal thing, for our family to tend and care for, to place flowers when we want to, and its not for anyone else to decide that they should have flowers at Easter or any other time of the year. I can appreciate that many graves are untended, and if these good people wanted to place flowers on those graves, then so be it. My parents grave is very obviously cared for, with a posy of everlasting flowers and the fresh rose was pushed into the container with these, as part of our own tribute. I have spoken to Poole Council about this and apparently the organisers were advised not to do this, as it may offend families of the deceased. The council is also concerned that they will now have to remove the 5000 or so dead flowers from each grave or is this same group of kind people going to return in a week or so and remove their floral tributes ?? If not it will have to be funded from the Council budget. myownopinions
  • Score: -2

3:53pm Wed 23 Apr 14

Morrigan says...

myownopinions wrote:
I know that this is not going to please everyone - but ...... this is indeed a lovely gesture, for SOME people. It is a very individual thing and as my parents are buried in the Parkstone Cemetery I was extremely upset. To me their grave is a very personal thing, for our family to tend and care for, to place flowers when we want to, and its not for anyone else to decide that they should have flowers at Easter or any other time of the year. I can appreciate that many graves are untended, and if these good people wanted to place flowers on those graves, then so be it. My parents grave is very obviously cared for, with a posy of everlasting flowers and the fresh rose was pushed into the container with these, as part of our own tribute.

I have spoken to Poole Council about this and apparently the organisers were advised not to do this, as it may offend families of the deceased. The council is also concerned that they will now have to remove the 5000 or so dead flowers from each grave or is this same group of kind people going to return in a week or so and remove their floral tributes ?? If not it will have to be funded from the Council budget.
"a posy of everlasting flowers" ...... roughly translated as "fake flowers" because they are cheaper/Ican't be bothered to take fresh ones every few months :o/ .......

Personally, if someone had placed a flower on my parents grave out of the kindness of their heart, I would have been more than pleased ....... but as you say, we can't please them all .................. :o//
[quote][p][bold]myownopinions[/bold] wrote: I know that this is not going to please everyone - but ...... this is indeed a lovely gesture, for SOME people. It is a very individual thing and as my parents are buried in the Parkstone Cemetery I was extremely upset. To me their grave is a very personal thing, for our family to tend and care for, to place flowers when we want to, and its not for anyone else to decide that they should have flowers at Easter or any other time of the year. I can appreciate that many graves are untended, and if these good people wanted to place flowers on those graves, then so be it. My parents grave is very obviously cared for, with a posy of everlasting flowers and the fresh rose was pushed into the container with these, as part of our own tribute. I have spoken to Poole Council about this and apparently the organisers were advised not to do this, as it may offend families of the deceased. The council is also concerned that they will now have to remove the 5000 or so dead flowers from each grave or is this same group of kind people going to return in a week or so and remove their floral tributes ?? If not it will have to be funded from the Council budget.[/p][/quote]"a posy of everlasting flowers" ...... roughly translated as "fake flowers" because they are cheaper/Ican't be bothered to take fresh ones every few months :o/ ....... Personally, if someone had placed a flower on my parents grave out of the kindness of their heart, I would have been more than pleased ....... but as you say, we can't please them all .................. :o// Morrigan
  • Score: 1

4:38pm Wed 23 Apr 14

myownopinions says...

Morrigan wrote:
myownopinions wrote:
I know that this is not going to please everyone - but ...... this is indeed a lovely gesture, for SOME people. It is a very individual thing and as my parents are buried in the Parkstone Cemetery I was extremely upset. To me their grave is a very personal thing, for our family to tend and care for, to place flowers when we want to, and its not for anyone else to decide that they should have flowers at Easter or any other time of the year. I can appreciate that many graves are untended, and if these good people wanted to place flowers on those graves, then so be it. My parents grave is very obviously cared for, with a posy of everlasting flowers and the fresh rose was pushed into the container with these, as part of our own tribute.

I have spoken to Poole Council about this and apparently the organisers were advised not to do this, as it may offend families of the deceased. The council is also concerned that they will now have to remove the 5000 or so dead flowers from each grave or is this same group of kind people going to return in a week or so and remove their floral tributes ?? If not it will have to be funded from the Council budget.
"a posy of everlasting flowers" ...... roughly translated as "fake flowers" because they are cheaper/Ican't be bothered to take fresh ones every few months :o/ .......

Personally, if someone had placed a flower on my parents grave out of the kindness of their heart, I would have been more than pleased ....... but as you say, we can't please them all .................. :o//
I gave my personal feelings, there is no need to pass judgement on the many families who choose to have 'artificial flowers' as permanent tributes.

"...... roughly translated as "fake flowers" because they are cheaper/Ican't be bothered to take fresh ones every few months ........"
That is a really horrid and personal thing to say about someone.
I did not chastise anyone for doing this- quite the contrary actually, I just said that I did not think it was right for everyone and certainly not for us. There is no need to make nasty comments.
For your information - Many members of the family live locally and visit the grave regularly, taking fresh flowers on occasions which mean something to us.
[quote][p][bold]Morrigan[/bold] wrote: [quote][p][bold]myownopinions[/bold] wrote: I know that this is not going to please everyone - but ...... this is indeed a lovely gesture, for SOME people. It is a very individual thing and as my parents are buried in the Parkstone Cemetery I was extremely upset. To me their grave is a very personal thing, for our family to tend and care for, to place flowers when we want to, and its not for anyone else to decide that they should have flowers at Easter or any other time of the year. I can appreciate that many graves are untended, and if these good people wanted to place flowers on those graves, then so be it. My parents grave is very obviously cared for, with a posy of everlasting flowers and the fresh rose was pushed into the container with these, as part of our own tribute. I have spoken to Poole Council about this and apparently the organisers were advised not to do this, as it may offend families of the deceased. The council is also concerned that they will now have to remove the 5000 or so dead flowers from each grave or is this same group of kind people going to return in a week or so and remove their floral tributes ?? If not it will have to be funded from the Council budget.[/p][/quote]"a posy of everlasting flowers" ...... roughly translated as "fake flowers" because they are cheaper/Ican't be bothered to take fresh ones every few months :o/ ....... Personally, if someone had placed a flower on my parents grave out of the kindness of their heart, I would have been more than pleased ....... but as you say, we can't please them all .................. :o//[/p][/quote]I gave my personal feelings, there is no need to pass judgement on the many families who choose to have 'artificial flowers' as permanent tributes. "...... roughly translated as "fake flowers" because they are cheaper/Ican't be bothered to take fresh ones every few months ........" That is a really horrid and personal thing to say about someone. I did not chastise anyone for doing this- quite the contrary actually, I just said that I did not think it was right for everyone and certainly not for us. There is no need to make nasty comments. For your information - Many members of the family live locally and visit the grave regularly, taking fresh flowers on occasions which mean something to us. myownopinions
  • Score: -1

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